Please, Just Lead the Way

Coming from a woman who is strong, witty, independent, financially self-sufficient, intelligent, sexy, and who is merely incredible, let me just say that I love it when a man LEADS. 

Omg I love it when a man leads the way. A lot of men are “intimidated” by someone like me and they allow me to take control or lead (which I don’t know why I am so intimidating I am the most objective and non-judgmental person for the most part, lol). And I hate that honestly. I wish I had someone who would just tell me what to do. And that’s in everything: dates, sex, and other forms of intimacy. 

Lord, I love being told what to do (when it is by the right person, of course). If we are going on a date, just tell me when and what time to be ready and how I should be dressed. When we having sex, tell me how you want me. Talk to me (I love it when a man talk to me during sex lol, just don’t talk too too much lol). Don’t wait for me to tell you to come over. Tell me on the way or what time you expect to be there. JUST LEAD ME. 

I consider that to be a form of intimacy. And that’s the only thing I truly want from a man nowadays: intimacy. I aint really pressed for a relationship or a commitment. That takes time. I would rather focus on building a bond, trust, and loyalty. If you google the definition of intimacy, it is defined as one of three ways: 1) close familiarity or friendship; closeness, 2) a private, cozy atmosphere, 3) an intimate act, especially in intercourse. 

Intimacy is NOT just sex. Intimacy is catering to your partner, and there are many ways to do that. We all have different types of needs that need to be fulfilled at different times for different reasons. When I feel overworked or overwhelmed, sometimes I don’t want to talk. The form of intimacy that I need is to simply be in your space, talking is not always required. When I am feeling lonely, sometimes I just simply want a hug or someone to hold me while I sleep. When I am feeling the need to transfer some energy, that especially means that I want some sex. When my thoughts are overpowering me, a date would be going on a date in nature to meditate.

Geesh. I miss intimacy.